Jee reviews #BadRomance by @HDemetrios @HenryHolt #YA #abusiverelationship #teenromance

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Title/Author: Bad Romance by Heather Demetrios

Publisher: Henry Holt

In a nutshell (Publisher):

Grace wants out. Out of her house, where her stepfather wields fear like a weapon and her mother makes her scrub imaginary dirt off the floors. Out of her California town, too small to contain her big city dreams. Out of her life, and into the role of Parisian artist, New York director―anything but scared and alone.

Enter Gavin: charming, talented, adored. Controlling. Dangerous. When Grace and Gavin fall in love, Grace is sure it’s too good to be true. She has no idea their relationship will become a prison she’s unable to escape.

Deeply affecting and unflinchingly honest, this is a story about spiraling into darkness―and emerging into the light again.

Verdict: Must-Read for YA!

My thoughts:

This book was one of the books picked for me for one of my reading challenges – that is to read out of my comfort zone – YA & romance. And I’m glad I read this!

I felt like the author wrote my entire high school love story in one book, almost to a T! No joke! I shared my own experience below.

It started off with the usual girl (Grace) falls for boy (Gavin) introduction. Grace didn’t think she would ever be good enough to be dating the popular, talented, and charming musician, Gavin. But when she found out he tried to commit suicide, she sent him a note of consolation on a whim. This note was the start to their relationship. Grace was over the moon when Gavin reciprocated her feelings. And they started dating. Love was a bed of roses UNTIL Gavin started being over possessive and protective.

He started calling her ‘not deep’, made her do silly, embarrassing, self-deprecating things just to ask her to prom; picked out her prom dress, reading her diary, etc. She kept telling herself she needed to call off the relationship but changed her mind when he started behaving all romantic and understanding again.

She went through this whole cycle whole cycle and roller coaster of emotions again and again, when he mentally tortured her, called her names, forced himself on her, sexually abused her and just when she reached her limit he acted all sweet and loving again, letting her to think he did all that our of love – his sacrifices, his possessiveness, his stalking – was to show how much he loved her.

Against her own judgement and best friends advice, she trusted him. She even sacrificed her dreams of going to NY for him.

All wasn’t good at her own home either. Her step-dad was abusive and a drunk. Her mom was submissive and was too weak to stand up for Grace.  She even allowed the step-dad to kick Grace out of the house. The only good thing in Grace’s life was her two best friends who stuck by her through thick and thin.
 
Some parts of the story could’ve been trimmed a little, but overall, it’s a great read.
 
If you know a young adult or living with one, tell him/her to read this. It’s an important book. The author also provided a list of resources (hotline numbers and websites) that are helpful for those going through similar situations like this. 
 
My experience:
I had my fair share of an abusive relationship with an over possessive bf during high school and I did think he did everything out of his love for me. But he went overboard when he tried to slap me. That’s when I knew something was wrong.
 
But I couldn’t tell anyone. My parents didn’t approve of our relationship because he was of a different race. None of my friends knew about him. So I was alone. But I was lucky because when I went to college, his job sent him away.
 
We communicated on the phone for awhile until I thought it was time for me to change my phone number. I was so afraid he’ll come by the house looking for me because he knew where I lived. I was in constant fear everyday until one day I was convinced he won’t be coming back anymore. But that moment when he tried to slap me – that moment, I’ll never forget. Never.
 
I’ve never shared this experience before until now. Looking back, I wonder how my life would’ve turned out if his job didn’t post him elsewhere. I honestly don’t know what I would have done. Till today, I thank my guardian angel for getting me out of that situation, and that he finally decided to leave me alone.

Have you read this? What did you think? If you haven’t, do you intend to? Have you experienced something similar to the MC? Please share with me your thoughts!

15 Comments Add yours

  1. Rosie Amber says:

    I’m very sad that you went through something like that. Hopefully life is much better now.

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    1. Jee Wan says:

      Thank you, Rosie. Yes, life is definitely much better now. That experience really opened my eyes.

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  2. Scarlett Readz and Runz says:

    Awe, Jee. Sorry to hear that. This is why I can’t read books with any such context. I too have had such a bad relationship experience that I barely got away with my life, although he tried. The girl after me was not so lucky (he killed her). Living in fear for years was horrible. All this is looong ago and I have healed, but I cannot read anything with toxic relationships. Talk about trigger! 😦 But I am glad you still liked the book.
    XOXO

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    1. Jee Wan says:

      Omg Scarlett! I’m so so sorry you had to go thru those dark moments! 😢I’m just so glad you’ve healed. I’m so sorry to know what happened to that girl. Has he been caught?? I hope he gets what he deserves! I must admit it was a difficult read for me bringing back those awful memories. But in a way, I’m glad I read it so I can recommend it to my kids when they’re old enough to read books like these, so they’re aware. Thank you for sharing with me your experience, Scarlett…xoxo

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  3. Rae Longest says:

    Sounds like a powerful book. And, just look at the complexity of the cover…beautiful and complicated at the same time. I have had many female university students who were caught up or even trapped in similar beautiful yet complicated relationships.

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    1. Jee Wan says:

      This relationship is so toxic it can harm both parties if it nothing is done. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone…This book is an important read to create awareness especially among young adults or teens going through peer pressure and all these raw and new emotions…

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  4. Daniela Ark says:

    I remember wanting this ARC so badly! 🙂

    I wish there weren’t so many “love” stories like but there are, mostly due to the way we, women, have been taught we have to accept all kind of things!

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    1. Jee Wan says:

      How true! It’s something I hope to instill in my kids – to not to take sh** from others!!

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    2. Jee Wan says:

      And to know how to stand up for themselves!

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  5. RoseMarie says:

    Jee, I’m so sorry that you went through such a horrific time in your life. I’m very happy you realize it wasn’t a safe relationship for you to be in. The sounds like a powerful and emotional read, and whether or not we’ve been in an abusive relationship at any level, should give it a read.

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    1. Jee Wan says:

      I can’t agree with you more! This is so important to create awareness!

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    2. Jee Wan says:

      And thank you, Rose! I’m just glad and thankful that it’s over. Alrhough it took me awhile to get over it, the experience taught me a good lesson.

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      1. RoseMarie says:

        Of course, this isn’t an easy feat to get over. I’m glad you go through it. 😊

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      2. Jee Wan says:

        Thank you! 🤗

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